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Love Part 1

2009-08-12T09:09:00.000-07:00

This will be a 3 part series on love.New revelation on it haha was talking to my leader today after bible study and guess what it just popped into my head.

Today's topic will be on what is it like to love someone.There are many definations on this.But well i have my own too.To me to Love someone is to be excited always when you get the chance to meet them.Today i learn that if that person is not excited to meet you means they are not interested.Its impossible that they say they like you and their response to you when you guys are about to meet is "anything lor or Up to you".Im sure if your loved one reply you this way you will be sad as well wont you ?

To love someone is when you close up your eyes and you can picture that person so nicely,every feature of their face and when you see their smile you would just be so happy even when the day is so bad.To love someone is also to serve them regardless of whose giving in and you will never be tired of doing it or doing it with complains.Its just like a shepherd guarding their sheeps they will never get tired of doing it because they love their sheeps.

To love someone is also to always have them in your mind.If you dont even miss them during the day then something is wrong ! Check up on yourself haha ! Same rule applies here,for the
shepherd and sheep example.If your love them you will always have them on your mind !

Well thats all i have for this edition J out ~

ps: This post is not pointing to anyone

Feelings

2009-08-04T23:10:00.000-07:00

Feeling Lost,Down,Confuse,Irritated, and many many more. Dont know why and things just suck.Think that things would be fine but things just aiant the way i predicted.Surrendering myself doesnt seem to have any effects.But,have faith to hold on,even if the end is disappointing or expected.

Lord,i trust you.

Sorry for not blogging for sooooo long.Just dont have the topics and feeling not well.Busy with school also.Emo is the word and Emo is the feeling.

2009-07-13T04:46:00.000-07:00

Yay ! Im Back~ And all ma supporters are gone T.T,but never mind,i will still continue to write !Well as i was walking back from dinner today a thought came to my mind so i decided to explore it.

Yeap.The topic for today is Childish or not ? Have you seen people mocking their friends using the word "Childish"? Im sure you do,singapore society is like full of all people mocking people. =XBut have you ever wondered why they will mock people like this ? What meaning do they really have ? Was it the thing that the victim did was really childish or there is another reason?

There are a three reasons that i could think of why would they mock people like this.Firstly,they are just joking around.Secondly,because that person really did something childish for HIS/HER age.

Thirdly,it is possible that they did not have a good child hood.Thats why when they see people behaving like a kid they have a sudden feeling of rejection.Thus, wanting their friend or that person to be on "his side",he labelled the person as childish to make that individual think that what he was doing is wrong.And return to the "correct side" which is his side.That way he would feel more comfortable.

The fact is sometimes you cannot blame that individual for acting that way.This is because in each and everyone of us there is a kid planted inside of us.We came out as babies and we will die a baby as well.What do i mean.When we get older,our body actually grows weaker,and our intelligence will start to decrease as the days goes by.This is excatly the same when we first came out of our mothers womb,weak and knowing nothing.

No matter what age there is a possibility of us acting as kids,this is because we cant control it.It is our sub - concious mind that is working.So be sure if you see someone acting childish dont be quick to correct but understand.

J Out~

Priorities..

2009-07-08T22:56:00.000-07:00

Sorry guys ! For not blogging for so long.Cause i didnt know what to write about.But through these days i finally found something to write again ! Feel free to comment as always.

Talking about priorities.What is it ? Priority means things that we place in order in our life to do from the most important to the least important.I am sure many of you will know that.And then you will ask how will i know which is my REAL priority.I am addressing on this problem because many times people will actually place they priorities wrongly and thus, leading to negative results when they are trying to achieve something.

Most oftenly people will put something that they WANT so much as a priority in their life but actually forgetting that their priority should be what they need instead of what they want.Of course in times people place them correctly also.Example: Getting good results in school.This is something what a student wants and what a student needs.Another example would be someone would want that super good phone when he/she just need an average one.Thus, people oftenly place their priorities wrongly because of this factor.

Stuff in life just always creates a fake image infront of you and it brings you to a stage of confusion between the real thing and the goodness of the fake thing.Its like,a trojan horse(computer virus).On the surface ,trojan horse disguise itself as a useful program and lures people to download it and when its downloaded it does horrible things to your computer.This occurs with some priority in our lifes.We tend to mislead ourselves and thinks that we are going the right way when we are not.

For you christian peeps out there,how to know your priority is actually to know God's priority in your life.God's way is always higher then our ways.Follow that and you will never go wrong.When you find that you arent following the ways of the lord it means that you have gone astray.It is said in the bible that God has already planned your every step to take.The decision lies in our hands to obey or not.In other words,God has already set our priorities FOR US.We just have to follow it.

Well this is all i have for you guys ! Ciaoz ~ J out ..

Vulgarities..

2009-06-30T20:58:00.001-07:00

This post will actually be talking about vulgarities and my view on people using them.As you know vulgarities can be used for different purposes.Sometimes to vent anger,sometimes to follow the trend and sometimes people do not even know why they scold them.Which is a serious problem with people today.

To me vulgarities are like a virus,once you are use to using it you will be some how "infected" by it,and you tend to keep using it not thinking about why you are using it.In my life i have seen people practically teenagers of my age or even younger spamming vulgarities like never before.Every sentence they speak forth from their mouth contains of maximum vulgarity usage,this depends on how long their sentence is.My question to them is (Do you find a purpose in scolding them in the first place?).

People will say that its a way they use to show their anger,but my advice would be,there are other ways to show your anger.And the definite choice would not be using vulgarities.This is because from my view one who uses so much vulgarity would actually cause them to lose their vocabulary, this is because every vocabulary used in a sentence is taken over by their vulgarity.
And it shows how uncivilise you are if you keep scolding them,although civilise people uses them as well but not as often.An example will be in normal english ( can you pls pass me my coat) and in otherwise (can you fking pass the fking coat to me you fker).You are surprised,but there are people like this.Vulgarities are like an everyday meal to them.Its like the air they breath.

Now moving on to the spiritual side.As christians we are not suppose to scold vulgarities.Why ?Because Jesus doesnt scold them haha.Another reason is because we as living testimonies are suppose to bear good fruit and carry the way we talk.As our words carry weight and have power,thus,if we were to speak foul language what would other people think of us.

Another reason would be,our body is like temple of God and our holy spirit dwells in us, and by scolding foul language actually grieves our holy spirit and of course its not good.So just a remind to you peeps out there try to surpress your anger if possible because what you bound on earth will be bound in heaven and what you speak forth will come to pass if you keep confessing.

Chill out J~

Right or Wrong..

2009-06-27T07:24:00.000-07:00

Most of the time in most of the situations when there is an argument and one of the party emerge victorious they themselves will think that they are right.Yes,this is true,when they place their facts and reason and then win an arguement and they are being favoured they are right.

Another kind of example would be like someone else offended you and you tend to think whatever you are going to do to him is what he deserves and is right.Technically,you are right because its what he/she deserve but on the contrary you are wrong.The reason will be listed below.

In life there are many things that are subjected to the so call "Right" and some of course "Wrong".An example will be 1 + 1 = 2 .This answer is correct no doubt.Nothing can change this fact.Another scenario would be someone robbing you.What that person did was wrong because stealing is classified as an wrong act.

Ok what i am trying to address here is even if the situation is correct but ! we might be wrong.Why?

There isnt any problem proclaiming your right when you are really right in something but the problem comes when you go on top of your head.What do i mean by this,given the situation that somebody have wronged you.And after proclaiming you are right you continue to bear that grudge and want to punish that person so badly and want them to get what they deserve so badly.

The heart of vengence is the problem friends.The disability to forgive and forget is the problem.The bible teaches us to be merciful to our enemies,no matter what others have wronged us,we forgive and forget.Be like Jesus since we are his disciples.People maybe disappointed you,wrong you but why dont we just react how christ react,grant them with mercy and Love them instead of wanting them dead.

Chill out ~ J

Difference between people with Ego and people with High Self - esteem..

2009-06-24T18:16:00.000-07:00

Many times in life we have been classified under these two categories if we were to have self praise.Firstly,people will say you are an egoist,someone who hase super high ego and always thinks highly of themselves.Secondly,normally people will claim that they are not an egoist but actually having high self-esteem in themselves.

So the question is,which is which or rather how do you know that you have been or have classified others in the correct catogory?Well i thought about this for quite awhile now and somehow the bible thought me something about it.

People who are Egoist normally are like that !
1.Never admit that it is their fault in ANYTHING.
2.Even when they admit it is their fault,in the end they will find something to turn their argument and make themselves faultless.
3.Always brag about their good points and corrects people when people say that they have bad points.
4.Likes to hear praises from people.
5.Will have a very big reaction when you say that they are wrong.

People who have high self -esteem are like this !
1.They are humble in nature,so when you praise them they will agree with you humbly.
2.They will fight for their own rights,if you push their plus point down they will push it up.
3.They will not be discouraged by others easily as they believe in themselves.
4.They are teachable.
5.They will not refuse help others.

ps:Proverbs 25:5-7
Remove the wicked from the king's presence,and his throne will be established through righteousness. Do not exalt yourself in the king's presence, and do not claim a place among great men.It is better for him to say to you, "Come up here,"than for him to humiliate you before a nobleman.

This verse actually means,dont exalt or rather bring yourself up,dont have super high ego learn to be humble learn to accept changes and comments by others.And God will lift you high up,for if you exalt yourself God will put you down and crush you.

There you have it,my view on this topic,Sorry for not blogging for like 2 or 3 days.Im a busy man xD.Give me topics luh ! Chill ~J Out..

Why do people emo ?

2009-06-20T08:50:00.000-07:00

Sometimes in your life you ought to get emotional and start doing stupid things and you dont know why are you doing but you're still doing it.And after everything is over you ask yourself why did all those things happen and you regret.And then you see other people getting emotional and u start asking why and why.

Well again,i may not have the right answers but giving it a try =).Dont not get offended people =D.Chill.

Well i start of by saying these people who get emotional at times are because they have an empty heart.A heart that needs to be filled with something so poweful that they can feel the love the joy and have no worries in life seeing life in a positive way always.But the main point is,they always say that they are OK ,when we know they are not.Of course,i know that only God's love can heal this problem.

Second reason being maybe it is because of their past that cause such a result of getting emotional.When the shadow of the past comes back to them they just could not help it and fall into a state of depression.Things like having their boyfriend ditched them or a bad incident that happened which left a deep impression in their hearts is likely the cause.And because they arent able to lift it out of their heart thats why there is this reoccurance of getting emotional.Again,God is the only one that can deliver them from their past and give them a new life.Even for us christians now adays we still tend to have all these things happen to us thats why daily prayer is so important.Let God renew our minds and soul everyday so that the joy of the lord lives in us and no evil shall enter.

Then you ask me :Why is it that they perform acts like " cutting their wrist or jumping down from a block".The answer simply would be,they cant find anyone who even bothers to help them or understand them.Another reason would be they are using these methods to actually express how they feel on the inside and because of the tremendous pain which is on the inside they do not feel pain on the outside.The way to solve this is again to have God in our life.Our God is a expressive God,thats why if we have him in our life we will be able to be more expressive then before and if we are able to express all out pain out there will be no need for us to have such acts.

So this is all i have,be sure to write in your comments on da tag board yea peeps.Chill ~ J out .

credits: Seow Crystalbel Pearlyn (topic requested)

The Difference Between Flirts And Playboys..

2009-06-18T09:02:00.000-07:00

Often people will mix up the meaning of flirts and playboys which actually irritates me.This is because i have experienced it.Some people call me a playboy when im not even attached.And people call me a flirt just because i have many female friends.

So in this post i am going to actually identify the difference between these two terms.Many people might think that they are the same thing but actually they arent.And definately a life of a playboy is so differnt from a life of a flirt.

A playboy is someone who has multiple girl friends.His life revolve around girls.Girls to him is just like pieces of clothes that he wears,he changes them frequently and leaves no feelings for them.A playboy will never get serious in a relationship this is for sure.How to identify a playboy.

1.He's/she's rich ( not all rich people are playboys just one of the conditions)
2.He/she always keeps his handphone from you ( hides his other girlfriends)
3.EST:Extremly Sweet talker ( Anytime, anywhere and to anyone also sweet talk)
4.He/she goes for looks and not personality ( Like duh ?)
5.Will try to just get you "done" and leave ( you know what i mean,if the playboy is a girl then she will just leave you heart broken ^^)
6.Empty Promises ( not only the break up one,he/she does it everytime !)

Now for a flirt is kinda same to a playboy but ! A flirt is not attached.He/she just goes around making people fall in love with them and does not have strings attached.How to identify ?

1.Make you look for them automatically
2.Say things that they dont mean eg. They loves you ( look at there eyes and you will know, the easier they say it out the faker it is)
3.Empty Promises ( not only the break up one,he/she does it everytime !)
4.Always act like they know you alot when they first meet you ( create a sense of friendliness so you feel comfortable with them.)

You ask me how to identify those who are true ? Look at their eyes and you'll know. =) And when times of testing comes they wont just give up easily.There's lots more,follow your heart or advice from those "old birds" haha.

Yeap this kinda it.Haha do leave your comments and opinions on this one because its a DPDP ( different people different perspective) topic. Chill ~ J out !

Fatness.. -.-

2009-06-17T08:49:00.000-07:00

I always have this question in my head.Why do slim girls always think they are fat.They want to be as skinny as a bamboo when they are already slim enough.What are the girls nowadays thinking.If your weight is like 60 kg and above then i dont mind you having a diet but if your weight is like 40 kg plus please dont go on a diet ~!

And i guess many girls out there see dieting is an in thing to do or rather they love doing it.But what my aim of today's topic is to tell them the right way of dieting.Most of the time girls will "assume" they know the right way of dieting,which is skipping meals.

News flash.Skipping your meals will only make you weaker,give you stomach problems and eventually destory you.Why?Because your body lacks nutrients !Yes you will eventually grow thinner BUT in an unhealthy way.Girls think that guys like slim girls.Yes,i agree they do but i think they will not like the stomach problems that come with that slimness.Thinking that your girl friend is going to die of some sickness just makes life sad for the guy yea?

Why girls think they are fat when they arent.Easy,in hokkien people say " ai sui mai mia".Means Rather die then to be ugly.Reality is unhealthy beauty isnt attractive at all.So i hope that after reading this you girls should have your wake up call.

However,you can still go on a diet.But a healthy one !You can eat LESSER each meal and not skip all meals.You can eat more but pull out time to exercise,dont say that you dont have time.If there is a will there will be a way.Bottom line is dont be lazy =).

And to you girls out there,if you want to know that are you fat or not dont ask yourself.This is because most of the time your self deciving.Ask a guy.And if he says you are fat then you're fat and vice versa.This is because all the guys know when they see a slim girl or not this is our nature so dont doubt it =).Lastly,God created food for us to eat so dont discard this privilage and you only got 1 life so eat all you can before you cant taste anymore.Life is short treasure it =).Chill ~ J out ~

credits: Seow Crystalbel Pearlyn (topic requested)

Memories..

2009-06-16T08:27:00.000-07:00

Have you ever thought of casting all your sad memories away and keeping only the good ones.Or even asked " Why do we have memories".Well God gave us memories simply because to learn from our bad memories and to feel good with our good ones.

Ever notice when you have a bad memory it always has a lesson to teach ?This is for you to learn from it and then mould your character bit by bit and to form who you are today or who you are going to be in the future.

And with every good memory,you will always smile when you think of them because those are the times that you have enjoyed yourself.It teaches you what is happiness and that in this world there is something worth thinking about.

Memories is something that you need to have both sides on my opinion.You cant only have the good ones nor only have the bad ones this is to balance life up.If your life is always so good and nothing goes wrong and you have nothing to learn from life then what is the point of living?Vice versa if your life is a living hell why not go striaght to hell and avoid suffering it twice?

But this is one thing you must know.Memories are created by ourselves.Good or bad it is all in our control and the choices we make.God can plan our path but if we choose to disobey then it will lead to a road of destruction, i am saying this from experience.This is because i can never forget the bad memory i have after making the wrong choice that created a bad memory for me.

Advice ! Make wise choices because your future depends on them.And never forget having memories is a privilage DO NOT throw it away or complain about it ! They will never be painful memories if you plaster them up with happy ones ^^ peace out J ~

credits: Loke Xue Yi ( topic requested)

Back From Chalet !

2009-06-14T06:16:00.000-07:00

Had fun ! Slept 2 hrs on the first day and 7 hrs on the second.Im still goo goo gaa gaaing over lack of sleep.But i still want to share what i have learned during that three days.

First off,humility.This is a very important thing.I have been reminded that to humble yourself is a very important issue in life.You always wonder why sometimes famous people fall,why rich people go bankrupt.This is because they have too much ego and always put themselves up and people down.When you do this you make people dislike you or even hate you,You yourself might not know because you're too busy boasting yourself around.And when some of these people decide to do something to you,things may get ugly.That's why you get backstabbing and sabbotaging.Technically,how to earn respect from someone or how to be successful the answer is to be humble.The bible says that if you humble yourself God will lift and exalt you but if you bring yourself up God will push you down.Many people know about this but sometimes when they are too full of themselves because of titles and positions they tend to forget.Thats what happened to me.I've learn to discipline my own behaviours and know that no matter what we are doing we are doing onto God.

Secondly,i learn that our speech is very important.As christians our speech is very important because what we confess will come to past and what we say will actually affect people's lifes be it we mean it or not.So i found out that after being full of myself i started to say things that are negative and affecting people around me.After i realised that i was wrong,i felt so sorry and bad that i decided to change.I have learned to speak with the wisdom of God and not with my own mind,to always see the bigger situation and not compromise to circumstances.

All in all i feel that these three days have really benefit me alot from personal character to my spiritual walk with God.Soooo pumped up now ! YEAH ! Readers please give me topics !!xD

Chalet ~

2009-06-11T09:47:00.000-07:00

Wont be blogging for 2 days ! tml and sat.. =) J ~

How Great is our God..

2009-06-10T09:49:00.000-07:00

Christians believe there is a God.For non-belivers some believe that there is a God and some dont believe there is one.This post is about why our God is so great that i want to share with you people who might not know this God that i worship.

But first question arise."How do you know that this God that you worship is real ?".My answer would be : " Because i feel him,i hear him and i see him".For people who dont know how we communicate with God fyi ( for your info ) we communicate with God through prayer.From prayer we can sense his presence if he is around us and hear his voice when he is speaking to us.And then the next question that you might ask is :" why is he that great".My answer would be,because he loves us.You say :" so what if he loves us,very great meh".The problem is some of you know its hard to love but easy to be loved.But you will think that how hard can it be to love someone.Then you're wrong.You can love someone when that person treats you nice and all goody good good but when that person treats you badly or have hurt/disappoint you before do you find it easy to love that person?I think not.Most of the time you will either hate them or take it as you have never knew them.

God is someone that loves you no matter what you did to him.You might have sinned against him so many times,hurt his heart so many times or even disappointed him gazillion or times but his love for you has never change and will NEVER change.Unfailing love and amazing grace that he gives to us.And its hard for him to do it but he still loves us.This is why he is so great.And he even send his ONLY son to earth to die for our sins.Can you love someone so much like how God loves us?

You might be saying that i am trying to physco the people who are trying to read this post.I can tell you i am not trying to do anything like that.But just to share how what i have encountered.To know God is a choice that i have NEVER regret making.Your life may seem good and well without God but it will be extraordinary if God is involve,and if your life sucks God can help you.Dont believe ? Just ask the friend that ask you to read this blog.As least i have experienced the extraordinary things that happen.

Interested to know more?Then ask the friend that ask you to read this blog.Peace Out ~ J

Promise Meant To Be Broken ?

2009-06-09T03:54:00.000-07:00

You know..alot of times i heard people saying this " Are promise meant to be broken ?".This sentence mostly come from people who have just broke up and they wonder why did it happen when their partner says : " I'll never leave you and bla bla",and most of the time the victim will take that as a promise of faithfulness.

A promise can be made in different forms.By mouth,on paper or with visual evidence.But sometimes even if there is evidence that the person made this promise he/she breaks it as well.This problem remains a mystery to many people.Firstly,i want to say that people who break their promises arent bitches or bastards.They just have a problem managing their own factor of knowings whats right and wrong.

Technically, a promise is not to be broken.This is because when you promise something to someone its like a pact made between you two or you to a group and trust it involved,and thus this create a kind of relationship you have with that person.That is this promise that can make you friends or enemies.You ask me why ?.Just imagine your partner makes a promise to you.Say,he wont cheat on you again.But later on you found out he did cheat on you again,doesnt it makes you sad and full of hatred?When hatred is involved,that person more likely turns into an enemy.It actually all depends on the person's characteristic to whether he breaks a promise or not.There are people who will stick and abide by that promise and there are just some who cant.

So question.Why do people still break their promises!As i mentioned above people have problem managing their factor of knowing whats right and wrong.This divides them into 2 parts,their body and their mind.Although science may say that the brain controls whatever the body does,but i think otherwise.I feel that its the body that controls the mind.People may have strong actions but saying "im not gonna break this promise and bla bla".But they have a weak mind and gives in to the thought of breaking the promise.Often when a friend ask that person : " hey why did you break that promise".And he/she replies" I dont know".See this is what i mean.Weak mind that gives in easily to temptations.During the point that they thought of breaking that promise they never come to think of the consequences, and BAM they decide to break the promise.

Addresing this issue in a BGR ( boy and girl relationship).Why is it so that people will break their promise of being faithful.Besides the factor that is mention on top,the other might be because they want or expect more from the other half and the other half was not able to do it.And i believe you guys know people will get nasty when they do not get what they want.Of course im not saying that they have the right to do that but its human nature.Its like when we are babies,when we dont get milk we cry and make noise till we get it.This character will follow us till we grow up you maybe able to change it abit but the roots are still there and we are designed this way.

Hope this query is solved =). Peace Out ~ J

The Facade Of People

2009-06-07T06:38:00.000-07:00

Ever thought of why sometimes people can be so nice infront of you and other times they just backstab you ?Or they could be so happy infront of you but actually they are handling with depressio ? All these are facades that are create by all those people. Facade on one hand can be putting on a mask and on the other hand it can be a plot to achieve something.However,it is sometimes hard to tell whether that person is on which side of the mask.

Firstly,a Facade can be real.This means that person is putting on a mask because he or she has to or to hide something that they do not want people to know about.He/She can be all happy and hooray in school or when you are with them but when they are out of your sight their emotional side will start to come out.Well in my opinion these people needs people's care and concern so please dont out cast them when you see them.Now the question : " How do we identify them ?".According to my own theory,again i might not be right.The way you identify them is when you and them are having a conversation and half way through you see him/her starring into space with a sad face or down face.And after you snap them out of it they will say that they are fine.

Now moving on to those who put on a mask to achieve something.From my experience these people's objectives are because they want attention they want to be recognized.Well,ego plays a part here.Their sense of ego is very high and in order to fufill it they put on a mask.I label them as people who AA ( Attention Attractor ) , AS (Attention Seeker) and NAD ( Need Attention Desperately).How do we identify them ? For AA they just do the weirdess things that you can possibly imagine.For AS they would normally want people to pity them they will also put themselves in sad situations and draw people's attention to them.And they will bug you even if you dont look for them.Last but not least the NAD's.LMAO they are the easiest flock to identify.They have desperate in their name right so what they do is the combination of AA and AS haha.

Chill ~

credits: Gillian Chan (Topic Requested)

Bad Habit ?

2009-06-06T08:07:00.000-07:00

Have someone ever told you to get rid of your bad habit ? And they tried so hard to explain why is it so bad and stuff but you just ignore them and continue with it ?Well recently i had this idea of what does habit means.Its kind of fascinating though so i thought i might as well share it with you lovely people out there. =).

Now you all know that habits are something that is in us.We do it all the time,eg. Shaking out legs and stuff.These are all habits,and they way people differentiate which is good and bad is by social norm.Things that are classified as bad will be bad and vice versa.But one wonders why people dont want them to keep a habit,espcially a bad habit.Firstly,it is bad of course lmao.Secondly, this is the reason.So you look at the word properly,the word habit is spelled as H A B I T.So as we know a habit is something we do oftenly.So as you take away the H ,you are left with ABIT of that habit you have.And it continues,You take away the A.You are left with BIT of that habit you have.And you take away the B,and you're still left with IT which is the habit itself.Lastly,you take away the I and u're left with T.So you say " A letter doesnt mean much".I say " you're wrong". T is for temptation,and this temptation will keep on pulling you back to doing that habit that you have.

Now if you apply this explanation to a bad habit then its bad news for you,because as you follow the breaking down of the word you can see clearly that it is a chain cycle that this habit you have will keep haunting you once you have it.Now looking on the bright side.You put this explanation to a good habit.Then you will just repeat all the good stuff that you do and of course brightens up your life.

This post is a short one because it really has nothing much to write about haha.Hope you guys learned something anyway =D chill out ..

School..

2009-06-05T08:41:00.000-07:00

Fed up with school life ?The thought of school kills you ?Hate all the exams and test that are coming your way ?Cant stand the teachers and friends in school because they are simply irritating and make you boil?I have some good news for you !You're not alone,in fact thousands upon millions are sharing the same fate as you.Some of them are even worse,you think singapore's education system is stressful ?Go read about Japan's and China's education system,then you will know what is stress.

School is something i feel is the place to enjoy while you are young.Yes,you have exams and stuff so what ?All you have to do is to get rid of your lazy bone and put in that little effort to study so that you can score well or even the bare minimum.But,youngsters nowadays just like to create a din out of it and complain and complain.The fact is,they are just lazy.Reflect on youself.How many times have you chose to slack off rather then to study when there is an upcoming test?And you complain you are stress.This is because you are squeezing tons of information into your brain in such a short time,of course you will be stress!

You say :"Jeff, you also not in sec sch you duno one la".I say " dude, have you forgotten i have been through that phase of life as well ?".Before you even experience it i already knew what it felt like.A saying "Been there,Done that".You say studying is boring,i tell you what is boring.Everday wake up at 7 am and go to work face the same boss same desk same pile of work,thats boring.You say studying is stress,i tell you what is stress.Facing financial problems,afraid that you will lose your job the next day,afraid that your children will turn to bad company,being ble to cope with all problems in life.That is STRESS.

I mean childhood/teenage is the best time of your life!School is just a place to prepare you for your future and a place to mould your character so that YOU will be able to take on anything that will be coming in the next phase of your life which is adulthood.Give me a choice i wish that i will be always in secondary school.But,we have to move on and everyone that is on the earth's surface have gone through school,if they survived i dont see why not you.Trust me,as you grow older you will learn that school is such a wonderful thing.

ps:Time can never turn back,so does your schooling days,enjoy them before they just turn into pictures that remind you of the past.

credits:Germaine Poh (Topic requested)

Family..

2009-06-04T10:09:00.000-07:00

Often complain you have irritating/bad/useless/unloving parents/siblings ? Always wanting them dead or disappear so that they could not stop what you want to do in life or get on your nerves ?But like it or not they are family,and if you're part of them you just have to bear with it.

Before digging out things to hold a grudge against them why not first dig out things to love them ? If you find things that they do that makes you love them then maybe those negative thoughts wont even appear in your mind.Remember how your parents brought you up when you are still a baby?Unconditional Love,giving their every best to you,hoping that this baby of thiers will grow up healthy and strong.But yet after we grow up we seem to have lost that picture in out memory,and we just flare up over little things and show our mean faces to the ones who brought us to this world.Friends,be it words or action that you do, good or bad it affects your parents alot.Hey i mean you are family and whats there not that you cant talk about ? But you say " they are just too much !".Then i say " Was it what you did to them that made them react this way ? Whose too much ? I think is you ?".Sometimes we fail to reflect what we have done before going to the conclusion that our parents are going against us.You say" I have lousy parents,they dont provide for me and they always abuse/scold me".I say "What about those without parents ?"Parents do what they do because they love us [this doesnt include abusing xD.] My point is understand and evaluate before you place a judgement on things.

ps:what's above applies to your siblings as well =)

Why is family so important ? This is why " Family never leave you". Friends leave you ,maybe even your future wife or husband will leave you but your family ? Never will they leave you.Your parents will be your parents until you die,your siblings will be your siblings till you die as well.I feel that the greatest family that one can have is when every member puts in effort to maintain this relationship.And that you must have Love in the family,when things happen dont hate but Love, dont blame but understand and put yourself in thier shoe.A family is like an army,United you will stand,Divided and you will fall.

Ever regret when someone close to you pass away ? Asking yourself why you didnt do this and that for that person when they were alive.My advice dont regret,Treasure them before they are gone,Life is short.Be a person of Love and not of Hatred,even if they wronged you,trust me if you show love they will change.This is because a human have a soul and they will get touched.How strong they might be they have that soft side. =)

ps:Dont take your family for granted. =)
credits : Jolyn Wong ( Topic Requested )

Unreachable future ?

2009-06-03T07:29:00.000-07:00

Have you ever sit down and think about what you want to be or do in the future ? A future that you want to create or dare to imagine ?Normally people will just give up their desired future just because they are "too difficult" to attain or they are just plain lazy to work for it.

Remember those times where you raise up your hand in class and said " i want to be a (whatever) in the future !".Or you wrote a composition titled " My future".And you wrote down many things that your mind could think of and that you want to be.But till today you have already stop pursuing that future you have because of some problems in life.When you are young everything seems possible but as you are growing more and more things seem more unreachable.Discouraging eh ?

Well of course there are people who succeed in achieving what they want.Thier dream car,dream house,dream partner.This is because they believe in themselves and do anything it takes to reach that dream.For those who are unable to reach their dreams,reason being their faith level is too low.Once they are being strike down,they never stand up again to believe and they just stop there.

Beliving is the key to almost anything.Although sometimes your circumstances might bring you down but thats another scenario.Take for exams.Be it N lvl's or Olvl's just believe that you can do it and you will ! (of course must study first ) =).

Ending with a quote : "The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams".

J - out ~

Friendship..

2009-06-02T07:30:00.000-07:00

What is friendship ? What are friends forever ? These questions flashes through some of our minds sometimes and somehow we could not get an answer to it.As you all might know friendship sometimes cause problems in our life and sometimes they just make our life great !

So what is friendship ? To me friendship is having a friend that you can talk to and communicate thats all.But to some of you it might be different.What "bff" this and that if you gals and guys know what im talking about. =).Some people see friends more important then their loved ones or even life well i have no objection to that indeed most of the time friends are there for you when you need them.You feel all happy and stuff and say " A friend is all i need ".But when things turn ugly you can just flip your off switch and say " Do i even know him/her ?" The point is if you are friends with that person no matter what goes wrong you will still be there standing with them,be it they betrayed you or backstabbed you.Some experiences of mine."Jeff my friend got bf le then i kena pang seh hais sien..he/she everytime like this one".And that person feels that their friendship no longer stands,if you are a real friend just zip up because you might not know you will be like them one day =).

Are friends forever ?This is a tricky one.Friends are forever but friendship isnt.After you made that friend he or she will forever be your friend but the relationship that you have might not be there.Its like your parents even if one day they disown you,you will still be their child just that there isnt any relationship anymore.But you say " Jeff Dont bullshit la, me and my friend so good where will no relationship",then i will tell you"Wait you all quarrel already then come talk to me".My answer is you will never feel the same after something happens between you and your friend.This is the same for relationship as well,after breakups normally its hard to patch up because it wont feel the same and people just get annoyed by it.

Addressing the issue of " why do friends come and go that easily". Again i do not have definate answer to this but as always i'll try =).Maybe the reason might be you ?Think, have you wronged them unknowingly ?Another reason is them.That they are too sensitive towards you that little things you do piss them off so they decide "thats it ..im through with this friendship".
Well what happens to a friendship cant be helped.You can either let it happen or prevent it from happening no point trying to turn things around when it turns ugly because it wont be that new like how it started from the beginning even if it heals.So Think before you Act.Dont Regret.

All in all friendship is like a love relationship,time and effort must be spent to maintain it.If not it will just go down the drain and be washed away.

ps:Dont let the pages flip by itself,because you will never know how fast it will end.

Love ?

2009-06-01T08:00:00.001-07:00

Many times people talked about what is love.Example,love is when you find someone that you can talk to,be there for you,stand in the gap for you and many more.While others think that love is just a game with 2 players and after the time pass people get bored and bad things start to happen.
There are many definations of love to different people.But what one always wonders what is true love ?

Of course i might not have the correct answer to this question but as always i like to give things a try.To love is to actually give and not to take,to understand and not misunderstand,to show care and compassion to that someone who you hold in your arms and not to mistreat her.And most importantly i feel to love is to never give up.

Many times people get hurt in a relationship and they will say " Im not gonna have another partner forever ! ".To me this isnt the right way of seeing things.Its like getting a cut or even an accident,you got injured,but you will heal you see.You say " It's been so long and i couldnt forget him/her time is not a remedy".Then i say : " Ask yourself this have you really given up ? Or have you really let go ?" You say : " Yeah i have given up ".Question is why are you still thinking about him or her ? How do know you have given up ? Its Easy,its call the Three D's. Dont think,Dont care and Dont bother.People say a champion is someone who Never quits.So same for love if you dont quit or dont give up i am sure God will give you someone u deserve.

People have bad experience as well.Example,being ditch by their partner who they love deeply and they give up on love.What I want to say is,don’t be so dumb.Dont burn down the whole forest for a rotten tree.If that guy or girl doesn’t care why hold on ? Its useless eh ? And then you ask “ where’s my dream lover bla bla “.Hello ? If you don’t even try again you wont find him or her ?Sometimes some people comes and “jio” you and u reject thinking that you don’t want to get into a relationship,but have you thought that maybe he or she might be the one ? It might not seem on the surface that they are but who knows,relationship works in miraculous ways.

My advice,Never give up on Love simply because you don’t know when you will hit jackpot and if you do give up you will just miss your toto or 4D lst price.And never put your feelings a hundred percent,then even if you get hurt you wont hurt that badly.Of course you must be faithful and stuff but unless you are sure don’t drown yourself too deep before its too late. Peace out ~ =)

Questions and Answers

2009-05-31T06:11:00.000-07:00

Sometimes you wonder why does bad things happen to you.And all the good stuff dont seems to come.It makes you feel lousy,sad,unwanted,outcast and many many more.And you feel like giving up most of the time.And people just tell you to chill out relax and look on the bright side of life."They dont know what i am going through" .This sentence flash past your head.True enough they dont.

And then you go around finding answers.Drugs,Sex,Suicide or bad company.But you always fall back to where you are,sitting one corner and crying out loud :"Why is all these happening to me ".You blame this and you blame that,but have you ever thought of blaming yourself ? Sometimes it all happens because of you.And after knowing the truth,you freak out and says : " NO ! Its not me ! NO WAY !".

My advice,lose that ego.You ask me how can you feel better or make things work.Well to do that you got to change yourself first.Its always one that impact many not many that impact one.Many only influence one.You say dude , its so hard to change,i've been like this all the while.You know what they say " If there is a will ,there is a way".You say " this is all crap,as if i dont know all these".

Im Just here to remind you.People often know and forget thats why humans are like this till today.